Can inter-caste marriage last...? - Instablogs
Can inter-caste marriage last...?
Hemant Mallan , shimla: Jun 16 2008
Made Popular Jun 16 2008
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Can inter-caste marriage last...?

The concept of caste system and religious discrimination are like a bane on the path of India’s progress. For year’s Indian society especially Hindu society have been divided on the basis of caste system and religion. The problem of caste system was so deep rooted that it took years for the Indians to come out of that idea. Even today also India is struggling to come out of this social menace. History reveals that efforts have been made by various social reformers and individuals whose name doesn’t appears in the pages of history to make India free from the clutches of caste system, untouchability and race discrimination. And when we talk about Indian marriages, which are inter caste and inter religious it seems like a taboo to most of the people. But in order to eradicate the caste system and race discrimination it is important that there should be inter caste and inter religion marriages. Marriages are regarded as the most important social custom and the best means to remove the barrier of caste system. Today in Indian society though we can see inter caste marriages but mostly it is the part of the city culture. The rural parts of the country still have a long way to go.

For years Indians had an orthodox mindset. They couldn’t imagine inter caste marriages. They had a conception that marriages are only possible in the same community and caste. But it’s not the matter of same caste or religion it is the matter of understanding and compatibility. It is how well the both of them understand each others’ need. It is not necessary that you have to belong to the same community or caste then only you can understand your spouse better. It is how well you feel for your partner. There are ample examples where two people from totally different background and lifestyle come together and spend their entire life happy with each other. So if there is true love and feeling than nothing should come in between their relationship. And to have this mindset you need to be educated first then only your perception about life about relationship changes. Education broadens your periphery of thinking it helps you to develop an analytical power. So inter caste and inter religion marriages can only be possible if people change their mindset and views and this is possible if there is proper education.

I heard few shocking news regarding inter caste marriage...

In a case of suspected honour killing arising out of caste differences, a youth, son of a senior Bahujan Samaj Party (BSP) leader, and his wife, a BDS final year student, were brutally murdered in a house in Kiran Vihar after being tortured by contract killers, allegedly hired by girls NRI parents and relatives of the girl here. The boy was a Ramdasia Sikh and the girl was a Jat Sikh (Dhaliwal). Their decision to tie knot despite the caste differences resulted in their death said the police. (Source: The Tribune January 9, 2005)

Though it is a difficult task to promote marriages between two communities but initiatives should be taken to fight this social menace. After all marriages is all about coming together of two souls irrespective of social background and class. Continue to keep a successful marriage life is not belong to cast or religion or language. It’s depend on both of your mind and behavior. There should not be complex and ego problems In between husband and wife. If both respect each others quality and taste there will be only happy nothing else will happen

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Why not? There are so many examples! If it breaks down it happens because of external pressure from the draconian society. Especially in certain parts of the country social pressure is extremely high which a direct insult of the democracy.
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Sasmita
pune, India
Of course it can. Lasting of a relationship depends on the two persons only. If they are ready to tolerate and adjust whatever pressure comes the way, than only they can live a happy married life. Before marriage a person may have many other sweet relationships with family members. So if one wishes to go against of them, than he needs to be ready to break all the attachments. Because pressure from both the sides will continue further. Mutual understanding is necessary.

But if it’s case in the uneducated backward area, than inter-caste marriage, going against of the community could be very very risky. For the parents consider it as a shame and don’t hesitate to kill them, just for the sake of society. Here no understanding will work.

Yes! In the inter-caste marriage one must to respect the other caste’s rituals, beliefs, tradition and customs etc, because these are the things his/her partner is made of till now.
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I am a little confused about ’race discrimination’. What do you mean by that exactly?
Caste-based discrimination is rampant, but where is race discrimination? Could someone, please, educate me about it?
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Usha
Chennai, India
For intercaste and interreligious marriages to survive, partners should firstly be prepared to give up the ’religion’ part of their upbringing. It is essential to decide how the children from such marriages will be brought up, even before the couple decides to tie the knot. It requires a great deal of mental strength and will power to make such marriages successful. Like any other sphere marriage succeeds if the couple involved work together to make it a success.
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Ranita
kolkata, India
Yep perfectly they can. Marriages are about two people who are in love with each other and want to spend the rest of their lives with each other annd not about religions. It is up to the husband and wife to love each other, once that’s in perfect shape no issues are enouh to split them.
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Leena
Kolkata, India
Yes, intercaste marriages can last... Infact I think more than the same caste marriages.

I think intercaste,inter-racial and inter-religious marriages can be an answer to much of the global unrest that is happenning on account of these factors.
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Deepa
mumbai, India
Mine is a intercaste marriage and by the grace of God and our of course for our love and commitment to each other, things are just too fine. But only those who are open-minded and can embrace other castes or religions with grace can make it happen.
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Nishi Roy
Bangalore, India
Mutual understanding, love and respect are the most important ingredients of a happy marriage. Issues like caste and religion become inconsequential if the two people are willing to empathize and understand each other.
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It is unfortunate that in some parts of India people still have closed mindset regarding inter-caste marriages. Proper education can clear minds of these old ideas and superstition. But offlate one can see many inter-caste, inter-religion marriages working well. So there is hope...
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Sanwali
Shimla, India
Lasting of a marriage has nothing to do with the caste.

As long as two people shows mutual understanding on all the matters, their marriage will be a blessing for them. And this mutual understanding depends on people themselves and not the casts.
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This for all parents out there! While talking about someone else, usually you go lengths talking about the young generation being smart, active and capable of taking decisions. But how many of you really feel the same when your kids take some decision? For example if your daughter comes up to you saying she wants to marry a guy who is not of your caste. Would you agree? Most of you won’t.

My question is why majority of parents don’t agree that even their children are capable of taking decision as to who is the right person for them? We have so many examples of successful inter-caste, inter-religion marriages. As long as two people have mutual understanding, I don’t think there must be some problem is respecting their decision. All that needs to be changed is the closed mindset regarding inter-caste marriages.
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